When life happens to you, which way do you turn? Do you embrace your Inner Chingona? Or do you take a detour via Ms. Paz (Peace) and end up at your Inner CHILLONA? Crying, frustrated, depressed. I would love to say that we all follow our Inner Chingona all of the time and, sadly, this is not the case.
I love my BFFs. It’s amazing how empowering it is to be with them, it’s like getting a reality check with love, there is nothing that they do not know, there is nothing that we hold back from each other. You can only imagine what topics are covered when we are together…When I heard this story, I told her that I just HAD to write about it because, as I listened to the story, and stated my words almost verbatim, it became the title of today’s post,…here is the story, what would you have done?
For this story, I revive 2 of my former characters, Yolanda and Rafa…
Things were really going great with Rafa and Yolanda. At first, their romance centered around Friday nights, where they would usually go out and do ‘couple’ things, away from their co-workers, friends, family. Come Monday, all would revert back to professional lives: Rafa as the boss, the Sales Manager of the stations, Yolanda as one of his top employees, cutting deals, bringing in money for the stations’ bottom lines. Yolanda was relieved that things were going well since there was no way that she wanted anyone to think that the boss was 100% responsible for her success, this was a partnership and she was doing her share of the heavy-lifting. The sides of the radio roads were littered with too many women who got involved with their boss and lost everything once the relationship went bad.
One Monday, things changed a little. Rafa asks Yolanda, “I’ve got this family thing on Saturday, think you wanna go?” “Sure”, she replies. On the surface, Yolanda was cool but inside, she was a jumble of excitement and nerves. Meeting family is major and Yolanda could barely concentrate on anything but ‘oh my God, he wants me to meet his familia, will they like me? will they hate me? could I meet him there in case things don’t go well and I’m trapped there? I really want this to go well! I want them to like me, OMG…”
All week, Yolanda is taking all of her clothes out of the closet and trying them on. The family thing didn’t sound too formal but Yolanda didn’t want to go all fachosa either. Rafa keeps asking her if she’s nervous and, of course, she answers, “no, why would I be?” when she was mere steps from having an attack of ‘chorros‘ LOL “Note: Make sure you know where all of bathrooms are at all times on Saturday!” Rafa didn’t seem nervous at all either, Yolanda thought, ‘this must be meant to be, it will all go great’.
Saturday morning comes and Yolanda is nervous but feeling confident on her choice of a skirt and sweater set that, ‘made me look cool, in, young, hot’…but not too hot because you know how Mexican familias are, they are not into showing too much, and the standard is set pretty high for women who are professional with careers, etc. Yolanda is just finishing putting her makeup on when the doorbell rings…
Rafa’s first words to Yolanda when she opened the door were, “well, I was going to have you meet my mother but not if you’re dressed like that.” QueQUEWhaaat? Rafa had seen Yolanda dress this way a million times before and had no problem with it, she was in total shock and her excitement for the day had gone just as if someone let the air out of a balloon. Now it was obvious that Rafa WAS nervous and, as it turns out, had some expectations for how the day would go…but did not tell Yolanda what these expectations were.
So what happened next? Does Yolanda listen to her Inner Chingona, leave her outfit on, and risk that Rafa decides not to take her, or that if he takes her, not introduce her properly to his familia? Does Ms. Paz pay a visit to the situation, and have Yolanda change her outfit to ‘keep the peace’ and leave the pathway open for Inner Chillona to bring tears, resentment, frustration to the mix? I swear that I forgot to ask how the story really ended, how do I end this story?