Social media and I have always gotten along. I love keeping up with people and learning new things. I’ve never been too “pesada” and gotten into any heavy-duty arguments or anything, I’ve always tried to keep things light. Sure I love the chisme but I never straight-up wish harm on anyone. So to see that I had been blocked by a certain person had me doing my ‘QueQUE?’ face?
Why do people block others from their social media pages?
Just like in real life, the instinct is to back off from folks who are ‘pesados‘, that is, super negative, bad attitude-having folks who rub people the wrong way. “Latosos” are the ones who exist to bug and frustrate you and the world, very stubborn. “Drama” – putting ALL of their business out there. I’m of the opinion that some things just do not belong in writing and that includes arguments and stuff like that. Not attractive.
Add to this list, safety. If someone doesn’t feel safe on social media, imaginate how s/he will be in person. As regular readers of this blog know, I have dealt with cyber-bullying/stalking and telling me to “just ignore it” when seeing certain posts and reading sick, filthy, derogatory, demeaning, vulgar, angry, sadistic messages doesn’t work. They are impossible to ignore and they DO have an effect on you. And like I’ve also said before, knowing that someone is out there hassling friends, colleagues, and acquaintances is a mind-boggling, embarrassing, nowhere to run, nowhere to hide experience that can sometimes have an even worse effect on you, your peace, and your life.
So to see that I had been blocked by someone, someone I do not even know personally, someone who I’m a fan of, someone whom I’ve never spoken to or written to, really brought me down a few minutes ago. My mind is going crazy thinking, “how did this happen?” “what exactly was said or sent to this person to make them press BlockCarmenTorres?”
And the minute I ask the question, I answer it as well. There is only one person who can be pesado, latoso, drama-ridden, and unsafe enough for someone to block him. Who knows what sets him off? Who knows why he gives off such negative vibes? Who knows how to make it stop? I surely do not know. The saving grace: the person who blocked me is not really an acquaintance or a friend, therefore we do not run in the same circles, and it is very unlikely that we would ever meet face-to-face. That moment of “aaay here we go again” and the feeling of dread lasts only minutes now, thank GodJesusVirgenOfG.
Got me thinking that, maybe, InnerChingona is dodging a bullet for me, a bullet filled with shame, embarrassment, despair, fear, and anger that threatens to throw me into emotional chaos. That madness has no place in my life now which happens to be filled with positive people, projects, and prospects. I’ve got to keep listening to InnerChingona so that I’m able to keep my hard-won peace and joy.
If Inner Chingona says “Keep on keeping on, Di No A Las Pendejadas”, then I better handle it, do my part, and listen!