I always smile when I hear the term “tener pegue” – I always think of it as someone who works it, someone who is confident and walks thru life with a fun attitude and who is fearless. I looked up “pegue” and liked this definition from a blog called MySpanishNotes:
“Tener pegue” means to have sex appeal, or charm if you like. It means you’ve got a way with the opposite sex.
So if someone tells you “Tienes mucho pegue“, well, lift your head up high and smile, because they just gave you a very nice compliment. Tienes (traes) mucho pegue You got a lot of sex appeal. I’ve yet to hear this phrase directed at me, but perhaps you all have better luck and more “pegue” than me.
My Comadre MariaLuisa and I have been friends for many years. The word “pegue” is very much a part of her vocabulary. And as you will see in the following examples, it is also a part of her life. My Comadre is the most personable, hilarious, and natural life of the party.
My Comadre and I got together for lunch at the University Union a few weeks ago. We’re sitting there eating and talking about life and, like many times at University, it is packed during the lunch hour and people will randomly ask to sit at your table if there is an extra chair. On this day, it was a guy in his twenties.
Now my Comadre and I are way older than the students at the University but I hope we don’t look thaaaat old! So when this guy who sat with us was laughing at all of the ish we were talking and he starts talking to us – wait, let me rephrase that, he starts talking to my Comadre, and not just talking with her, like flirting with her! He gets up to leave and I look at my Comadre who, without skipping a beat, says, “I still got it Comadre, todavia tengo pegue!” 🙂 So true! I remember seeing this when we were students, this woman would have every guy after her, wanting to hang out with her. Many of the pretty girls regularly wondered how my Comadre did it. Even her so-called friends. I also remember one of Comadre’s ‘friends’ telling her, “how do you do it? I mean, I can’t even get anyone to pay attention to me (‘because I’m thin and beautiful’ was what she did not say out loud)”.
Fast-forward to a few weeks ago: I met my Comadre who was at a birthday party in the park, I hadn’t seen her in a while; in fact, I haven’t seen a n y of my friends for a very long time.
My Comadre had invited me weeks ago, and I was tempted to NOT go because, lately, I tend to say “no” automatically. I sent her a text asking if she was still going to be in town, and she responds promptly, “come on down, they have a taquero” LOL — so if I didn’t go for her per se, I was going to go for the tacos! Once I arrived to the party, tacos or not, I was glad that I had shown up. As we walked to the tables, I ask my Comadre how she is, and she tells me “I’m already drinking” and I smile because the more things change, the more they stay the same. I knew that we would have a fun time.
Within minutes, I was LAUGHING because this girl is straight-up hilarious. And then it happens again: all of the guys gravitate toward Comadre, and she’s joking with them all. Like usual, I’m sitting right by her and watching all of this go down and seeing some of the women give those looks that we women tend to give when our men are flirting with someone else. She says to me under her breath, “I still got that “pegue”
What does it feel like to have that kind of effect on people? How do you know that you have it? What do you have to do to get it, to have pegue? According to my Comadre, it’s very easy. Just be yourself, don’t try to be something you’re not. It’s exhausting to try to be someone you’re not and, at our age, it’s simply not attractive to be all desesperada just to get a man to notice you. This will allow you to be more confident because you’re not playing games, you’re owning the good and bad about yourself, you’re completely comfortable saying anything you want, you’re not trying too hard.
I also asked one of my guy friends about “pegue”. He proceeds to tell me how it’s charm, it’s working it, it’s having that confidence to “say out loud what most people are thinking”, to know that you’ve “got it”, to know that you can get anything you want. Another important thing was to be completely natural, to act like you’ve already got it instead of wondering how you are going to get it.
What I really liked was how he said that he would get in front of the mirror, with or without his daughters, and say ‘daaang we look good, don’t we? Everyone is gonna check us out when we go out today”, how cool to instill that type of self-love into his daughters. My comadre regularly tells herself in the mirror, “chingaaao, que buenota eres!” LOL They speak to themselves as if they are the best thing ever and it’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy, what they say they are, they are.
Both of these individuals definitely make an impact upon entering a room, they have that kind of confidence that one needs to get what they want: a man, a woman, a meeting, a yes. In short, they make “pegue” work for them, instead of the other way around. I love that kind of confidence. Can you imagine if there were a way to bottle that kind of energy? Can you imagine the possibilities your life could have if you lived knowing that you had that kind of “pegue”? Limitless opportunities. A fun social life. Walking through life with confidence. I want that kind of “pegue”.
Work it for yourself with confidence, with pegue. A good life goal, don’t you think?